The warning I’m referring to is the warning to stop! To stop pushing yourself; to stop working; to stop going and going and going. It’s a reminder to stop and look after ourselves, to care for ourselves, to give to ourselves and to replenish. It is the strong reminder to be kind, to love and to be gentle with ourselves.
In my experience of the women I know, we are busy, we are striving, we are there for family and for friends. We are there for our colleagues and bosses, our clients, and in fact anyone else who needs us, BUT we are not there for us – or at least not as much as we could be.
As one of my Camino Experience ladies commented as we walked – “As a wife and mother I am responsible for keeping my family afloat. As an employee I am responsible for keeping my team afloat. But no one is responsible for keeping ME afloat! ” That’s one reason she was walking this iconic path with me.
I burnt out about two weeks after that incident not helped by the fact that my 9 day holiday was not on the beach but a 9 day walking trip over the Pyrenees! After the holiday I let go. Burnout and Adrenal Fatigue was then diagnosed and as I moved through my recovery it became clear that there had been warning signs but I had just ignored them.
Now, much more aware of that ‘warning sign’ I pay attention. I don’t suddenly drop everything as if I’d just been burnt by a match, I consider and I plan and I do so before it gets to crisis point.
I have recently been in a similar place as I was all those years ago, working very hard, working long hours and knowing there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I am aware of the pattern. I know the consequences and I am tuned into the dry tickly feeling at the back of my throat. Yes, it’s been around so what’s different?
Now I make sure that I stick to my morning routine of looking after me where possible, so I go out for my walk, making sure I give me step total for the day a real chance. Then I do my yoga exercises and stretches and I eat a good healthy breakfast that fuels me. That sets me up for the day. If I’m working late, then I allow myself to sleep a bit later the next morning so I get that 6-7 hours sleep. If I feel really tired, I don’t push on through, I stop and go to bed sometimes via an epsom salts bath.
By doing the above, the illness, the exhaustion, the irritation no longer happens and I can tell you that family and loved ones really appreciate that, as do I.
So what I want you to do is to be more mindful of your body and the signs. Note down headaches, little aches or pains, twitches, tickly throats etc and see if there is a pattern because then you can nip things in the bud and take action to replenish and care for you.
A warning sign is a great thing to have. It’s your friend.
If you are finding that life is running you rather than the other way round; that there seems little time for joy and fun; that you are irritable and quick to anger then reach for my book – ‘How Walking Saved My Life’ and let it speak to you. The book is available on all amazon sites for different countries.